Read Aaron Lazare’s requirements for an effective apology. These attempted apologies and expressions of consolation failed to elicit. Aaron Lazare, M.D., a noted scholar on the psychology of shame and humiliation, offers a thoroughly engaging and lucid examination of an important and. On Apology, by Aaron Lazare. New York, Oxford University. Press, , pp., $ What a pleasure to read a book by a prominent psychiatrist.

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This doesn’t pardon criminals from court justice, but it can help them repair their souls and do better in the future. He is aleading authority on the psychology of shame and humiliation, and wrote waron highly regarded article on apology in Psychology Today that led to appearances on “Oprah,” “Talk of the Nation,” and many other TV and radio shows.

Second, this books is wonderfully structured at multiple levels. Get fast, free shipping with Amazon Prime.

He mentions companies in China that specialize in apologies and the differences between cultures concerning apologies – what is acceptable versus what isn’t. Lists with This Book. Experience and History David Carr.

Ships from and sold by sweethomeliquid2. By providing specific examples of how nations and individuals have apologized for their offenses in the past, he offers the optimistic idea that offending parties have made an ongoing commitment to change their behavior to those they have offended.

Withoutabox Submit to Film Festivals. Quirk No preview available – Whether you know all or none of these stories, they are fascinating as Lazare breaks them down and analyzes the motives behind the apologies and if they were sincere or not.

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Anyone who has ever fallen short of ideal behavior should read apologu book. Quick read, and full of sincerity. After the two weeks, Lomax said his anger was gone. With On ApologyAaron Lazare offers an eye-opening analysis of this vital interaction, illuminating an often hidden corner of the human heart.


It actually breaks down what makes apologies fail, and how to make apologies succeed. If only I could write this well. This book will teach you the art on how to apologize and why it is neccessary. It is one of the main reasons so many of us hold on to grudges for years.

Also the examples of failed apologies and how they can make thing worse than saying nothing and who amoung us has not recieved an insulting apology that hurt rather than healed. To ask oh readers questions about On Apologyplease sign up. This event was remarkable because we could not recall Naomi ever apologizing for anything.

Interesting look at the phenomena of apology.

He is a leading authority on the psychology of shame and humiliation, and wrote a highly regarded article on apology in Psychology Today that led to appearances on “Oprah,” “Talk of the Nation.

This is one of the FEW books that avoids biblical blathering and useless pop psychology. Lazare covers so many different aspects of apologies. Share your thoughts with other customers. View all 9 comments. Acutely aware of a world in which nations, institutions, and individuals exist in an interdependent global village, his message contains both a hopeful call and a warning sign.

On apology is an invaluable tool in improving your own apologies and in understanding others. These situations aside, effective apologies are a tool for promoting cooperation among people, groups, and nations in a world plagued by war and conflict.

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A particular point Lazare makes is the distinction between apology and forgiveness – that people can find it much easier to forgive or be forgiven than to apologize.


I’d say that’s accurate. For the past 10 years, I have studied the structure and function of public and private apologies. Naomi continued her denial.

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Examples of such exchanges occurred, with apologies offered, during the Truth and Reconciliation Commission hearings in South Africa. Readers will not only find a wealth of insight that they can apply to their own lives, but also a deeper understanding of national and international conflicts and how we might resolve them.

An authentic and effective apology includes two components It just seems that way because Lazare is such a good writer. Author Aaron Lazare started out the book talking about the increase in apologies found in media outlets in recent years and the apooogy importance of apologies in an interconnected world: Ok now I’m starting to sound a lawyer. The first and most common healing factor is the restoration of dignity, which is critical when the offense itself is an insult or a humiliation.

By apologizing, the offending party aafon his or her commitment to the rules and values implicit in the relationship by saying, in essence, “I really am the person you thought I was. Ships from and sold by Amazon. That was the first deficiency. I’m not into humiliation. President Clinton, President Grant. Why we do it, what the mechanics are, what constitutes a true apology, why we wait. Alexa Actionable Analytics for the Web.

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